Valentine's Day originates from the story of Saint Valentine, who upon rejection by his mistress was so heartbroken that he took a knife to his chest and sent her his still-beating heart as a token of his undying love for her. Today, heart-shaped cards are now sent as a tribute to his overwhelming passion and suffering. The day became associated with romantic love in the High Middle Ages, when the expression of courtly love flourished.
At the time, the emotions and expressions of love were kept secret and were not practiced between a husband and wife. Only marriages were acknowledged as relationships. Courtly love was a style of expressing love and admiration. It was an expressive experience between erotic desire and spiritual attainment, and all about the intense exchange of emotional, and sexual passions. This type of expressive love would evolve over the years to become known as "courting" and "courtship."
We have an idea what this Valentine's Day will be like, and we remember what last years was like. Chances are these experiences will fall short of the spiritual intention of the day: To initiate a courting process that will eventually become a union of two souls that will tap into an intense romantic and passionate sexual energy that will be mutually shared with another soul. Is that what you have scheduled this year? In the middle ages, expression of love, romance, and passion was a spiritual discovery, not so different than the spiritual teachings of today.
"Sex is the most fun you can have with your body, but sadly, you probably will not learn how to experience all the passionate energy your body is capable of." -Conversations with God
I wish the universe could give everyone the ability to see aura, and learn just how easy it is to manipulate the energy of your partner, but I can't. It would make it easier, but it is not impossible to achieve without it. If you are up to this point in the newsletter thinking: "Wow, this is great! Jordan is going to teach me how to have the best romantic experience of my life." You have already lost the ability to achieve that goal.
The text above refers to courting and courtship. Those are energies that require creative thinking and an investment of energy. In nature, hundreds of male birds might have to so a courtship dance for a female, who picks the one she likes best. I would imagine the male birds create and practice new moves to be the one chosen. That is creative thinking and an investment of energy.
You cannot tap this universal power if you are thinking about what you are going to experience in return for your efforts. You can only think about what you will give, and what energy you will send out to the universe. Leave it up to Yin-Yang to see how the universe returns your energy. The power of the light is harnessed by charitable energy.
There are millions of possibilities you can do this Valentine's Day, and the important thing is that you invest time and energy creating your own path of destiny, but I will throw out some ideas that may help get you stimulated. I am an oneologist and an amateur chef, so a romantic dinner at home would be a natural choice for me, and one that might go like this:
First, I would create an atmosphere. I think they made February 14th Valentine's Day, so we can use our fireplaces. Even if it is not that cold, an artificial log provides atmosphere without giving off much heat. I might create a few CD's to provide background music. If I get a complement on my selection of tunes, I would give them as a gift. Dim lighting is a no-brainier, and I like to use a non-scented candle or two. Non-scented, so it doesn't clash with the smell of the food.
An oneologist is a fancy word for someone that is into wine. I think a proper selection of wines, served like a wine tasting, turns a dinner into a dining experience. The beginning of the evening starts new the fire with conversation. A small cheese plate, or a small plate sushi is perfect. A chardonnay is a dry, full-bodied wine that matches well with mild and strong cheese, and seafood. Fill the glass no more than a third, and it's a taste and a sip of wine.
Turn up the music a pinch as you go into the dining room for appetizers and salad. Jumbo shrimp cocktail, oysters on the half shell, or crab cakes would be my favorite choices. For salads, I am partial to Tomatoes and mozzarella or Caesar Salads. Serve with a White Zinfandel, which is a blush that has a light fruity flavor.
For dinner, and when I am cooking in the winter, I like to serve something meaty in a sauce or gravy. Perhaps something like a crab meat stuffed filet mignon with a whiskey peppercorn sauce, creamy garlic mashed potatoes, and seasoned asparagus tips. Basically, a meal you are not likely to have too often, like grilled chicken. Serve a red wine (notice how our wines are going from light to dark?) like a Beaujolais which goes with everything except lamb and Asian food. If your serving that, go with the Merlot.
And for dessert, what woman doesn't love chocolate souffle? I like to serve mine with a side of fresh fruits. You can go back to the Chardonnay you bought for the cheese plate, or go with a dessert wine. I like to use a Sec Champaign. It's slightly sweet and compliments the souffle marvelously. A Champaign also gives me the opportunity to make a toast to the wonderful evening.
What If I Can't Cook?
That is exactly the point. I didn't come into this world with the knowledge of cooking. I learned it. Everything I listed above sounds a lot harder than it is to make, and you can go to any recipe site and find detailed step by step directions how to create a menu like that. The idea is courtship, not the food itself. It is the effort, the attention to detail, the research, the shopping, and all that you went through to create an atmosphere of courting. Valentine's Day is about a week away. It might take a kitchen beginner all of 6 to 8 hours max to accomplish that menu. Believe in what you can do, not what you can't do.
If My Present Relationship Has Issues?
Sadly, I have been near overcome with souls in relationships that have opportunities to grow. Again, this exercise is about your soul and your investment of energy. Nothing changes. If you choose to not invest creative energy to improve your relationship, you can expect the universe will return the same effort back to you. Come up with the same type of plan for Valentine's Day, even if you expect to get nothing in return. By the way, that is the definition of charitable energy.
The Yin-Yang of the Universe is Full of Surprises
Some time ago I was advising a gentleman on his present relationship. He had been dating some five years, and his girlfriend wanted to get married. He loved her, figured they would be married someday, but wasn't ready to pull the trigger. They had discussions about breaking up if they weren't going to get married, her biological clock, etc. The more pressure she put on him, the more reasons for resistance he came up with.
We talked about their relationship a lot, and in the end he decided to come up with a very romantic plan that didn't include an engagement. He flew his girlfriend to Las Vegas for a romantic weekend, highlighted by romantic dinner at a five star french restaurant in a secluded area with an amazing view. As they were waiting for dessert, the restaurant made an announcement of a marriage proposal. The wait staff all lined up, started clapping, and marched two desserts down the aisle. One of the desserts had an engagement ring for a garnish.
They marched exactly in the direction of the man I was advising. His girlfriend became overjoyed and excited, she couldn't believe it was finally happening. The wait staff stopped at the table right next to them, no more than three feet away, and the man at that table proposed to his girlfriend. She was so crushed she started crying, and they had to leave the restaurant. Imagine the odds of an event like this happening. A week later they finally got engaged. Not because of the pressure or the emotional experience, but because he saw an engagement up close and personal. As I say all the time, the universe will return your investment of energy in ways you cannot image.
"One meets his destiny often in the road he takes to avoid it."
I hope you have been able to connect with the spiritual power of courtship and the process in which you create your paths of destiny. If you are not presently involved, save this newsletter for when you may be involved. It doesn't have to be Valentine's Day to create and harness the power of the light in your romantic relationships.
Love and light,